In the raging case of Pastor Biodun vs Ese Walter, and the extra girls now coming out to confess, I decided against many promptings from people to tweet or write anything as a blogger and a media enthusiast. Trust me, I know a juicy news item when I see one, and this one is very easy to milk and send to the public. I began writing this post last week but decided not to rush into finishing/publishing it so it didn’t get drowned in all the emotional “higa higa” of the weekend.
As I say all the time, everyone is entitled to their opinion no matter how archaic or stupid it sounds. But as much as we are, I believe there is the point where common sense or shall I say wisdom allows us draw the line. My eventual hope for this post is that we all learn to draw the line, at some point. Be it with juicy stories we read; political, pastoral, celebrity and non celebrity details that have sadly found their way to everyone’s hands, including those who have no business having them, or trending topics of intellectual propensity, because of the internet.
I don’t know whether to say that it is unfortunate that social media is the “easiest‘ and “quickest” form of communication right now because as you may have noticed, (or not have) it is ruining us. Accept it or not, talking face to face will always be the safest way to communicate. You can observe stuff like body language, tone of voice and other seemingly little vibes. On social media, every one just wants to talk and be heard. Everyone wants to prove a point, we all want to outwit each other. The funniest jokes, the hottest diss, the biggest gbagaun. We don’t even care how it affects the person(s) involved. The other day news went round about how popular Nollywood actress Tontoh Dike contemplated or perhaps attempted suicide, and I could not believe the kind of hate buzz that people still managed to generate for someone who was in so much pain already.
Ok so maybe we don’t like Tontoh. Maybe her acting is weird, maybe her singing is whack (I believe it is) but her life is her life. So wishing her dead and spreading untrue stories to validate your tweet so you can get 50 retweets is just damn EVIL. Someone tweeted the other day after Arsenal began the EPL with a loss that Wenger should just die of a stroke. He got so many retweets, probably more than he had ever gotten since he opened his twitter account. So what? football fanaticism has clouded our sense of humanity, or better yet, our sense of reasoning? Make a slight grammatical error in your tweet and some people take it upon them selves to frustrate you to the point of closing your twitter account. The quest for popularity and follower ship make people go any length to get what they want. A certain blogger whose name I will withhold just because of the fact that you all would leave this post and possibly go and lynch him, changed the headline of the Ese Walter story, just so he could get traffic to his blog. His title read “How I was Raped by Pastor…” . To think that being famous on twitter does’t even put any money in your bank account.
It is mostly difficult to have descent conversations on social media. Users see being critiqued as being attacked and decide to take it personal. People have differing opinions on a subject and a mega fight erupts. Curses for unborn generations on a fellow you have never even met. So what if I joined the PDP, and you are anti PDP? So what if my pastor flies a jet and your pastor doesn’t? So what if I watch BBA, and you hate it? Should that be an issue for insensitivity or death threats? It is a shame that we would rather bash people in other to get a fancy or funny tweet going.
There is one gist or the other on social media everyday. There are people who create hashtag trends for a living. If its not #childnotbride, it is #pastor&privateJets or #beverly’sSexVideo, #KimKardashian’sBaby. It is ok to discuss and share your opinion, and there is no problem, if you want to centre your gist on analysing how baby North would become Blue Ivy’s BFF and they would both fall in love with Royal baby George. That is your business. There is absolutely no need to relate it to Kim’s sex tape,and produce a fresh dose of bashings just to express your displeasure. Can you not see that she has moved on? Heck she’s on season 8 of a
silly show that has over 3million viewers, (if not more). You are on twitter hoping for 50 retweets for being able to diss her the best. Comments on posts by bloggers are the worst. Most times the insults have nothing to do with the story. The insensitivity we portray stinks. It is hateful, it is disgusting. People are hurting deeply, dying slowly, or being suicidal because of these “little” things. Strangers get insulted for being “ugly” in their avatar. Like really? Being ugly is now enough reason to be hunted. It is RIDICULOUS
Unlike any other typical rant, I hope we truly get to understand the gravity of this. I hope we learn that being considerate is very important. I hope we learn that this world is quite smaller than we thought. I hope we learn that what goes around ALWAYS comes around. Ultimately I hope we learn that people deserve their space.
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